Honor Your Vulnerability – The Cheryl Richardson Blog – Heal Your Life


Honor Your Vulnerability – The Cheryl Richardson Blog – Heal Your Life.

Wow, a beautiful expression of an honest thing. Normally, I would read this and feel inspired and then immediately tell myself how silly this was and how much it wasnt actually going to make a difference no matter what. You know why? Because I was laden with shame.

Being vulnerable is scary, especially if you are a person that doesnt want to feel feelings – which I was. Brene Brown has a great viewpoint on this whole vulnerability thing. Vulnerability is necessary to connect to others, it is the birthplace of joy, creativity, and belonging.

Being vulnerable isnt a bad thing, its a necessary thing to be human. Brene defines courage as “telling the story of who you are with your whole heart”. She also says “You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability”. This is so true. Courage is telling who you are with everything you have, no hiding, no half truths, no skipping that question, that in and of itself is making you vulnerable because you are opening yourself up to the possibility of being hurt or the person you are connecting with to walk away. When you are excruitiatingly vulnerable, you are connecting.

Can you live life without connection? Some might say yes, coming from my experience, you can walk through life without connection. I did. I was something coined ‘the walking dead’. I did what was necessary to get through life, but I didnt want to depend on anyone, I didnt want to get too close – I am married remember? and I have 3 kids – I didnt want people to know the “thruth” about me, they might run.

You know what happened? When the people I love the most learned the real truth about me, because I was vulnerable and told them the truth using my courage, they didnt run. They didnt stare at me with horror that I was this terrible person. You know what they did do? They cried with me, for me, held me, LOVED me, SUPPORTED me, UNDERSTOOD me. So I say yes, be vulnerable. Be yourself, no one else is going to be you, they are all trying not even to be themselves.

I will not pretend this is easy – its probably the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. But, the hardest things in life are the most rewarding. I wont even pretend you can do it on your own, most people can’t. Find someone to help you learn how to be yourself. There are so many ways to do this, but I encourage you, find out what works for you. Its an exhillarating feeling.

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