A Weekend of Realization


You know when you plan those amazing weekends (or nights, events whatever!) in your head and it’s going to be epic and just the way you want it to be? ……………………….And then its not. What do you do?images

I have always had a bad habit of being a spoiled brat. I want what I want when I want it and if you don’t want to help me get it, then just get out of my way! After all, that’s exactly, word for word, what I told my husband the night I met him. I truly lived by those words. (Kind of amazing he didn’t just leave then huh? LOL)

They aren’t all bad, wanting something and going after it – that’s great! That’s ambition, and we all need it. Not letting anything stop you, that’s good too. Now comes the part of putting the blinders on and saying MOVE OVER! to get what you want – probably not the greatest way to go about it. So, my ambition – awesome, blinders – not so awesome.

Well, this weekend I “had an amazing idea” to hang out with friends, listen to music and add to my 500 Songs List. A friend of mine came over and we did just that, along with talking and it was something that we both enjoyed. I added 17 more songs to my list than what I already had. 🙂 Then, my husband was going to come over, bring the grill with him, and we were going to cook out with the kids and continue the music fest. I had imagined this rockin’ time singing, laughing, dancing around my living room.

So, what actually happened? Yeah, not that.

He did come over, we did hang out with the kids. He brought a fast food fish restaurant for dinner and it sucked (but thanks for trying! 🙂 ). I’m not being mean, I know he agrees. We then ended up playing Risk with the kids. My youngest went to bed early after being ugly most of the day and not napping, then chose to get up at 11 pm and didn’t go back to sleep until 6 am.

Soooooo – not the weekend I had planned. 😦

I was telling a friend of mine about my weekend this morning when it hit me – I was being spoiled. I was choosing to look at what went wrong instead of what was good. I hung out with a friend that I hadn’t hardly talked to for MONTHS! I did get some music added to my list that I truly like and found out some things:

  • Didn’t know Lenny Kravitz sang some of those songs
  • Know why I like Alanis Morisette – she’s angry and so have I been
  • Alan Jackson – I can listen to him but not much of his music actually touches me
  • We Danced Anyway –  LOVE LOVE LOVE that song!! (I had forgotten about it)
  • JoDee Mesina – almost forgot about her but I remember really liking her music.

I also did hang out with my kids and my husband and it wasn’t filled with TV. I let my kids go to the pool most of Saturday (yes they look like lobsters) and it made us both happy. I didn’t have to cook dinner and while it was gross, my husband was trying.

An angel in my life keeps telling me to smile and choose my feeling. She’s right – if I want to be spoiled I can stomp my feet that I didn’t get everything I wanted this weekend but I did have an amazing weekend and choosing to look at it with happiness gives me joy instead of torment of being spoiled.

It is your life after all, live it the way you want to. But if you choose to be negative, everything is going to look negative and nothing will go right. Believe me. But, if you choose to realize the good and know that things could definitely be worse, they don’t seem very bad at all. And you know what? You will be happier and so will those around you.

What are you choosing today?

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